Jolanda van bergen

Last month I had the pleasure to talk to Jen Griffiths. Our world couldn't be more different and that makes this conversation so special. We don't have to be afraid of each other!

4 months ago | [YT] | 0

Jolanda van bergen

Who’s Covering the Holidays Again?


You’re either:
drinking glühwein with friends,
wrapping presents,
actually resting… (just to name something wild)
or
You’re working. Again. Because your colleagues have kids.



This isn’t a one-off situation or a misunderstanding.
It’s a repeated, normalized pattern in many workplaces.



And no, this isn’t parent-bashing.
This is calling out a system where parenthood equals priority, and non-parenthood equals default coverage.



Your life isn’t a filler schedule.
Your rest isn’t optional.
And fairness at work shouldn’t depend on whether you reproduced.



If this hit a nerve, you’re not imagining it.
Need a place where you can talk about this safely?
Join the Thriving Without Kids community (link in comments)


See you there,
Jolanda





#ChildlessNotByChoice #ThrivingWithoutKids
#LifeAfterInfertility #ChildlessCommunity
#InvoluntarilyChildless #SocialInfertility
#RedefiningWomanhood #BoundariesMatter
#SelfWorthJourney #WorkplaceEquality
#RespectWithoutKids #BreakingStigma

6 months ago | [YT] | 0

Jolanda van bergen

Friday fun day – let’s look at this myth!



“If you don’t have kids, it’s either infertility or you chose not to.”



No.
That’s lazy thinking. And it erases millions of women.


There’s a name for what people refuse to acknowledge:



🔥 Social infertility



No partner.
Wrong timing.
Money.
Responsibility.
Life derailed.
Life delayed.
Life happening faster than your chances.


You did want children.
You just never got the circumstances that made it possible.


If this is you, the know this:
*When no one names this, you don’t get to grieve it.
* And without grief, you get stuck comparing your real life to the life you thought you'd have.


This isn’t infertility vs. choice.

This is childless not by choice, no explanation required!

7 months ago | [YT] | 0

Jolanda van bergen

Two feelings, One heart



Someone shared something that really stuck with me today.
“My sister just came home with her newborn. I love that tiny little human already… but lying in bed tonight, I feel like crap.
I’m happy for her, but also reminded that my heart still hasn’t accepted that I won’t have kids.”


It’s only human to hold two feelings at once, joy for someone you love, and pain for what you’ve lost.



Both can exist at the same time.
Both are valid.
And something all childless women experience.



You don’t have to rush your heart into acceptance. Acknowledgement is key, and allowing yourself time and space to feel. Self-compassion!



Thriving Without Kids is the community where you find my personal support to navigate these feelings.
🔗 thrivingwithoutkids.com/community




#ChildlessNotByChoice #ThrivingWithoutKids
#LifeAfterInfertility #ChildlessCommunity
#InvoluntarilyChildless #SocialInfertility
#RedefiningWomanhood #BoundariesMatter
#SelfWorthJourney #WorkplaceEquality
#RespectWithoutKids #BreakingStigma

7 months ago | [YT] | 0

Jolanda van bergen

You’ve stopped hoping,

because hope feels dangerous.


Every time you dared to believe,
it broke your heart.



But here’s the truth: staying hopeless doesn’t protect you. It just keeps you stuck.


You can keep guarding your heart.


Or you can open it to new hope,
and take that first step towards a life filled with purpose and joy.



Join the Thriving Without Kids community and we take that first step together
🔗 thrivingwithoutkids.com/community




#ChildlessNotByChoice #ThrivingWithoutKids
#LifeAfterInfertility #ChildlessCommunity
#InvoluntarilyChildless
#RedefiningWomanhood #BoundariesMatter
#SelfWorthJourney #WorkplaceEquality
#RespectWithoutKids #BreakingStigma

8 months ago | [YT] | 0

Jolanda van bergen

Week 4 of the Take Back Your Happiness Challenge
(Cheap title, valuable challenge)



“Happiness is an inside job”



We’ve arrived at the final week of the challenge and it’s all about turning insight into action.
After 3 weeks of exploring our emotions, stories, and patterns, it’s time to take what we’ve learned and turn it into movement.



Because movement, even the tiniest one, always creates change.



1) What’s one small thing that could bring you joy?
2) What would it take to make it real?
3) And what if the only thing standing in your way… was what others might think?


Inside the community, women are building their Hero Plans — taking back their happiness, one bold, beautiful step at a time.

It’s about creating your own path. Not the one the world expected of you, but the one that feels right for you now.



If you’ve been watching from the outside… this is your moment to join in.
Don’t just follow the journey — live it.
🔗 thrivingwithoutkids.com/community


#ThrivingWithoutKids #ChildlessNotByChoice
#LivingChildfreeNotByChoice #CNBCJourney
#LifeBeyondMotherhood #FromStuckToStrong
#TakeBackYourHappiness #EmotionalHealingJourney
#InnerStrengthChallenge #ReclaimYourJoy #TakeBackYourHappiness

8 months ago | [YT] | 0

Jolanda van bergen

Week 3 of the Take Back Your Happiness Challenge
(Cliché title, life-changing challenge)



“We can’t control what happens to us, but we can change how we relate to it”



The first two weeks of this challenge were the hard part. Digging deep, raw and most of all being honest with yourself.


I wouldn’t say the boring part, but ‘the homework before you can go out an play’... ‘the bitter Brussel sprouts before the sweet dessert’ kind of thing. Get it?


It was essential though, as without this we would not be able to make the shifts that we are making this week. As this week... the fun part starts. All our senses are invited this week to create magic.




Curious?
Join us inside the Thriving Without Kids community and take this transformative step with us.
🔗 thrivingwithoutkids.com/community





#ThrivingWithoutKids #ChildlessNotByChoice
#LivingChildfreeNotByChoice #CNBCJourney
#LifeBeyondMotherhood #FromStuckToStrong
#TakeBackYourHappiness #EmotionalHealingJourney
#InnerStrengthChallenge #ReclaimYourJoy #TakeBackYourHappiness

8 months ago | [YT] | 0

Jolanda van bergen

Autumn Vibes, I’m really feeling them this year and loving it!



The days are getting shorter, the air a little cooler... October might seem like a “nothing” month, but when I look outside, nature is putting on its best show. Every day the world looks a little different and somehow, I’m appreciating it more than ever.



What’s your autumn mood this year?

8 months ago | [YT] | 0

Jolanda van bergen

We’ve opened Week 1 of the Take Back Your Happiness Challenge
(shitty title, powerful challenge)



It all starts with a single question. The kind of question that seems easy… until you try to answer it. A question that can leave you speechless. Yet, once you face it, it changes everything.



Inside, women are journaling, reflecting, and the ‘aha’ moments are already happening.



October might seem like a ‘nothing’ month. Summer finished but we still remember the sunny days. Winter hasn’t kicked in ad the year-end festivities are far away. Meaning that this is the perfect month to get in tune with your feelings and learning how to shift them to feelings you want to feel.



Don’t miss out! Join us today and be part of this powerful first step.
🔗 thrivingwithoutkids.com/community





#ThrivingWithoutKids #ChildlessNotByChoice
#LivingChildfreeNotByChoice #CNBCJourney
#LifeBeyondMotherhood #FromStuckToStrong
#TakeBackYourHappiness #EmotionalHealingJourney
#InnerStrengthChallenge #ReclaimYourJoy #TakeBackYourHappiness

9 months ago | [YT] | 0

Jolanda van bergen

Week 1 of the Take Back Your Happiness Challenge is here!



This week, we begin with a question.
The hardest question of all.
A question so simple, yet even the smartest people stumble over it.....



But here’s the thing… once you can answer it, everything starts to shift. The confusion, the emotional tornados, the endless “why me” thoughts, they begin to settle.



✨ Inside the Thriving Without Kids community, we’re tackling this question together. Journaling, reflecting, and supporting each other as we uncover the answers most of us have been too afraid to face.

If you’ve ever felt lost, overwhelmed, or like your emotions were controlling you? This is where your turning point begins.



👉 Don’t miss it. Join us today and step into Week 1 of the challenge.


Go to: thrivingwithoutkids.com/community




#ThrivingWithoutKids #ChildlessNotByChoice
#LivingChildfreeNotByChoice #CNBCJourney
#LifeBeyondMotherhood #FromStuckToStrong
#TakeBackYourHappiness #EmotionalHealingJourney
#InnerStrengthChallenge #ReclaimYourJoy
#TakeBackYourHappiness

9 months ago | [YT] | 0