You've Stopped Trusting Your Own Answers #anxiousattachment #psychology #shorts

Many people turn to tools like chatgpt for relationship advice, often due to a lack of self awareness and a tendency to seek external validation. This video explores the psychology behind relying on artificial intelligence for personal clarity, highlighting an external locus of control. Understanding this dynamic is crucial for fostering genuine internal insight. 💔 In this video, we discuss the mechanics of losing yourself in relationship—not as a choice, but as a conditioned response to a history of emotional neglect. We explore how attachment trauma creates a "scarcity model" of relating, leading to a persistent fear of abandonment and the internalized belief that your needs do not matter. Watch the full video here:    • When relationships make you disappear | Wh...   Want a worksheet formatted copy of my notes to go along with this video? Put words "Get Notes" in the description and I will alert you when they are available. ________________________ Alan Robarge, LPC | Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist | 23 Years Experience | M.A. Counseling Psychology | Relationship Coaching Individuals and Couples Counseling My channel provides psychology education to help those hurt by love rebuild what heartbreak shattered and forge a stronger self. This community is for relational seekers navigating emotional unavailability, relationship anxiety, and breakup grief. Attachment trauma is the origin of push-pull conflicts, unmet needs, miscommunication, and mistrust of vulnerability. _____ Focus: Emotional Neglect, Attachment Trauma, Relationship Heartbreak. _____ Five Pillars of Transformation: Losing Yourself → Strengthen Identity Obsessing Over Leaving → Resolve Ambivalence Fearing Abandonment → Heal Separation Distress Distrusting Vulnerability → Nervous System Regulation Craving Nourishment → Build Emotional Literacy Key Areas: Anxious attachment, fawning, people-pleasing, enmeshment, toxic shame, self-abandonment, love addiction, codependency recovery, limerence, childhood development wounds. ______________ I'm Alan Robarge, a Licensed Professional Counselor with 23 years of clinical experience specializing in attachment trauma, heartbreak, love addiction, and codependency. This channel is built for adults who lose themselves in relationships — who stay too long, grieve too hard, and can't understand why love keeps leaving them emptier than before. My work draws on attachment theory, the psychology of the false self, inner child re-parenting, and shame repair. You won't find generic, relationship self-help here. You'll find clinical frameworks with names like the Maybe Trap, the Fantasy Bond, the Internal Double Bind, and Emotional Malnutrition. My channel provides psychology education to help those hurt by love rebuild what heartbreak shattered and forge a stronger self. Focus: Emotional Neglect, Attachment Trauma, Relationship Heartbreak. Five Pillars of Transformation: Losing Yourself → Strengthen Identity Obsessing Over Leaving → Resolve Ambivalence Fearing Abandonment → Heal Separation Distress Distrusting Vulnerability → Nervous System Regulation Craving Nourishment → Build Emotional Literacy Key Areas: Anxious attachment, fawning, people-pleasing, enmeshment, toxic shame, self-abandonment, love addiction, codependency recovery, limerence, childhood development wounds. __________ Support This Channel: Membership Subscription To support the creation of this organized library and to connect more deeply with this work, I have launched a YouTube Membership with two tiers of exclusive content. This is a way for benefactors and long-time viewers to support the sustainability of these insights and join a community focused on emotional health. Join the Membership: youtube.com/channel/UC5weiD_1MALL7AE9OhOEAPw/join __________________ #attachmenttrauma #emotionalneglect #relationships #codependency