Alyssa Cotten

Yesterday was my birthday.

I spent the morning doing what I always do: self-reflection, journaling, muscle testing, and goal setting for the next year around the sun.

And here's what I noticed.

I didn't achieve all the goals I wanted to achieve this year.

Some of the big, shiny, "looks good on paper" goals didn't happen.

But I felt peace anyway.

I sat with my journal and reviewed the last year. And instead of focusing on what I didn't accomplish, I asked myself a different question:

"What did I achieve that doesn't look like a goal on paper?"

And the answers flooded in.

I have a regulated nervous system now. I don't spiral the way I used to.

I don't cry when things don't go my way. I process and move forward.

I see the world through a new lens. I trust myself more. I'm not performing for approval anymore.

I ended relationships that needed to end. Not because they were bad, but because that friendship cycle had run its course.

I deepened relationships with the people I truly care about. Quality over quantity.

These aren't achievements you can put on a vision board.

But they're the foundation for everything else I want to build.

Here's what I realized:

We're so focused on external wins that we miss the internal shifts.

We're chasing the revenue goal, the follower count, the dream client, the perfect relationship.

And when we don't hit those markers, we think we failed.

But what if the real win was the version of you who can handle stress without shutting down?

What if the real win was the grounded energy you carry now compared to a year ago?

What if the real win was learning to let go of relationships that no longer serve you without guilt or drama?

Those are the wins that change your life.

Because when your nervous system is regulated, when you trust yourself, when you're grounded in who you are, everything else becomes easier.

The external goals don't feel so heavy. The setbacks don't destroy you. The wins feel sustainable.

So today, I'm inviting you to reflect.

Not on what you didn't achieve. But on the quiet, powerful shifts that happened beneath the surface.

The ways you've grown that don't show up on a spreadsheet.

Grab your journal:

1. What's one goal you didn't achieve this year? Now ask yourself: what did you gain instead? (Maybe it wasn't the goal, but you learned something, shifted something, or became someone different in the process.)

2. In what ways have you achieved goals that don't look like goals on paper? (A regulated nervous system? Not reacting the way you used to? Trusting yourself more? Ending toxic patterns? Deepening real relationships?)

3. What relationships in your life have completed their cycle? (Not every relationship is meant to last forever. Some are meant to teach you, support you for a season, and then naturally end. Who or what are you ready to release with love?)

Here's what to do this week:

1. Set aside 20 minutes to reflect on the last year (or even just the last few months). Write down everything you've achieved that doesn't fit into a traditional "goal" category. Celebrate those shifts.

2. Notice one moment this week where you handle stress, disappointment, or challenge differently than you would have a year ago. Acknowledge that growth. That's the real work.

3. If there's a relationship, friendship, or pattern that's completed its cycle, give yourself permission to let it go. Not with anger or resentment. Just with acknowledgment that it served its purpose and it's time to move forward.


You didn't fail this year.

You evolved.

And evolution doesn't always look like achievement. Sometimes it looks like peace. Grounded energy. Self-trust. The courage to let go.

That's the foundation everything else is built on.

So if you didn't hit all your goals this year, but you became someone who can hold more, trust more, and regulate more?

You won.

Keep going.

Alyssa 💙

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1 week ago | [YT] | 7

Alyssa Cotten

Sometimes you're too tired to tap.

Your body is exhausted. Your brain is fried. You know you need to regulate, but the idea of doing one more thing feels impossible.

I get it.

You've been "on" all day. Working, performing, holding it all together.

By the time you have a moment to yourself, you don't want a guided meditation where you have to focus. You don't want to tap along. You don't even want to think.

You just want your nervous system to calm down without you having to DO anything.

That's where this week's video comes in.

Here's the thing about your nervous system:

It doesn't always need you to actively participate in regulation.

Sometimes, it just needs the right input: the right sound, the right rhythm. And it does the work for you.

This is what EMDR audio does.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) uses bilateral stimulation (alternating left-right input) to help your brain process stress and regulate your nervous system.

Normally, this is done with eye movements or tapping. But you can also use audio.

Bilateral audio alternates sound between your left and right ear, creating the same regulating effect without you having to move, tap, or think.

You just press play. Put in your earbuds. And let your nervous system do the rest.

Add in 60 BPM (beats per minute), the rhythm that mimics a calm, resting heart rate, plus the soothing sounds of rain and a fireplace, and you have the perfect lazy girl regulation tool.

No effort. No focus. Just relief.

This is for the nights when:

You're too exhausted to tap
Your brain is too fried to meditate
You just want to lie down and let something else do the work
You need regulation but you're out of energy
Press play. Close your eyes. Let the audio regulate you.

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

Alyssa Cotten

Mental Health Awareness Month is important.

But mental health regulation is what actually helps.

Awareness tells you something is wrong. Regulation gives your body a way to process it.

Grab your journal:
1. What does "mental health awareness" mean to you versus "mental health regulation"? Have you been focused on acknowledging your struggle without actually giving your body support to process it?

2. When you feel overwhelmed, anxious, or burnt out, what do you usually do? (Scroll? Push through? Ignore it?) Does it actually help your body regulate, or just distract you?

3. If you had a tool that could help you regulate your nervous system in under 10 minutes whenever you needed it, how would that change the way you move through hard days?


Here's what to do this week:
1. Pick one day this week to notice when you're dysregulated (tight chest, racing thoughts, exhausted but wired). Don't fix it yet. Just notice it. Write down what triggered it.

2. Try one session from the May calendar based on what you're feeling. Overwhelmed? Try "Feeling Overwhelmed EFT Tapping." Exhausted? Try "Staying Consistent When You're Exhausted." Match the session to your body's actual need.

3. At the end of the week, ask yourself: "Did I just acknowledge my mental health this week, or did I actually support my body to regulate?" Notice the difference.
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1 month ago | [YT] | 3

Alyssa Cotten

May is Mental Health Awareness Month.

But awareness isn’t enough.

You can know you’re overwhelmed, anxious, or burnt out…
and still feel stuck in it.

That’s why inside The Tapping Studio, we focus on regulation.

This month is about:
feeling better
softening your nervous system
and actually supporting yourself in real time

Your May tapping calendar is live 🔗
www.alyssacotten.com/TappingStudioApp

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1 month ago | [YT] | 3

Alyssa Cotten

Stop Editing Yourself to Be Liked

Why You Keep Shrinking Yourself
• You soften your opinions
• You over-edit before posting
• You hold back to avoid judgment
• You make yourself more “likable”

This isn’t a confidence issue—it’s a safety response

Your Nervous System Learned:

• Being liked = being safe
• Disapproval = danger
• Visibility = risk

So your body edits you before the world can

Grab Your Journal
1️⃣Who are you afraid won’t like you if you show up fully as yourself? What are you afraid will happen?
2️⃣What would you say or do differently if you didn’t need everyone’s approval?
3️⃣When did you learn that being liked = being safe?

Try This This Week
✅Notice when you edit yourself—pause and name the fear
✅Regulate your body (tapping, breath, grounding)
✅Do ONE thing that feels true—even if it’s uncomfortable

You don’t need everyone to like you
You need to stop abandoning yourself

Regulate your nervous system in minutes 🔗 www.alyssacotten.com/TappingStudioApp
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1 month ago | [YT] | 4

Alyssa Cotten

It's here: The Tapping Studio app
You're stressed, anxious, and overwhelmed—but you're ready for more.
More love. More wealth. More success. More visibility.
Your body just needs support to hold it all.

I'm excited to tell you: The Tapping Studio app is officially live.
No more switching between links. No more searching through emails.
Everything you need to regulate your nervous system is now in one place—right in your pocket.

Download the app and get instant access to your 3 free sessions:
🌙 Sleep After an Overwhelming Day
When your body is exhausted but your brain won't stop
💼 Reset Before Big Meetings
Calm anxiety before sales calls, presentations, or big moments
✨ Release the Pressure
For when you're holding it together on the outside but wired inside

Perfect for your on-the-go life.
Use them in your car, on a walk, between meetings, or before bed.

Download The Tapping Studio app now:
Download for iPhone: apps.apple.com/us/app/tapping-studio/id6478508996
Download for Android: play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj214769…

Your body deserves support—not more pushing. 💙
Alyssa
P.S. Already have the free sessions via email? Download the app anyway—it's easier to access, you can use it offline, and you'll get notified when new sessions drop every Tuesday.

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1 month ago | [YT] | 6

Alyssa Cotten

You wake up exhausted. So you reach for coffee.

But 20 minutes later? You're wired, anxious, and still don't feel like yourself.

Here's what's actually happening:

You're not tired because you didn't sleep enough.

You're tired because your nervous system is still stuck in yesterday.

Your body never got the signal that it's safe to start fresh. So you wake up already dysregulated—tight chest, racing thoughts, that heavy "I don't want to do this" feeling.

And coffee?

Coffee doesn't regulate your nervous system. It just puts fuel on a dysregulated fire.

So now you're anxious AND caffeinated. Wired but exhausted. "On" but not actually present.

Most people think their morning energy is about sleep or caffeine.

But it's actually about regulation.

Your nervous system needs to shift from "survival mode" to "safe to engage" mode before you start your day.

And that takes 5 minutes—not another cup of coffee.

✨ This Week's New Tapping Session ✨ www.alyssacotten.com/offers/UteKFpg8/checkout

This week inside The Tapping Studio, I added: "Before Coffee Tapping: Morning Energy Boost."

This one's for you if:

You wake up exhausted even after a full night's sleep
Coffee makes you anxious instead of energized
You feel heavy and "off" in the mornings—like your body doesn't want to start the day
In 9 minutes, you'll:

Signal to your nervous system that it's safe to start fresh
Release the heaviness and dysregulation from yesterday
Feel grounded, clear, and ready to engage—WITHOUT the caffeine crash
Grab your journal:

1. What does your body feel like the moment you wake up? Describe it without judgment. (Heavy? Tight? Anxious? Numb?)

2. How would your mornings be different if you started the day regulated instead of dysregulated?

3. What's one thing you do in the morning that you think "gives you energy" but actually just covers up dysregulation? (Coffee? Scrolling? Rushing?)

Here's what to do this week:

1. Tomorrow morning, before you reach for coffee, notice what your body actually feels like. Don't fix it—just notice. Is it tight? Heavy? Anxious? Write it down.

2. Try this week's tapping session BEFORE your coffee. Just once. See what shifts. (Bonus: your coffee will actually feel good instead of making you wired.)

3. Ask yourself: "What would it feel like to start my day regulated instead of caffeinated?" Then do the one thing that supports that.

You don't need more coffee.

You need to regulate your nervous system first.

Then the coffee is just a bonus—not a crutch.

​The Tapping Studio ​
www.alyssacotten.com/offers/UteKFpg8/checkout
Your mornings deserve to feel good—not wired.

Alyssa 💙

1 month ago | [YT] | 3

Alyssa Cotten

You know what you need to do. You have the plan. You have the vision.

But you can't seem to stay consistent. I hear this all the time from ambitious women:

"I start strong, but then I just... stop."

And here's what almost everyone assumes: "I'm not disciplined enough. I'm lazy."

But that's not what's happening. You're not unmotivated. You're exhausted. There's a difference.

Motivation is: "I don't want to do this."

Exhaustion is: "I want to do this, but my body won't let me."

When your nervous system is running on fumes—when you've been pushing and performing for too long without real rest—your body shuts down.

Not because you're weak. Because your nervous system is protecting you from complete collapse. The goal you're chasing? The routine you're trying to build?

Your body perceives it as one more thing draining your already-empty tank.

This is why you can't willpower your way through exhaustion. You have to regulate your nervous system first.


✨ This Week's New Tapping Session ✨

This week inside The Tapping Studio, I added: "Staying Consistent When You're Exhausted."

This one's for you if:

You start strong but can't maintain momentum
You feel guilty for not showing up consistently, but you're too tired to push harder
You know what to do, but your body feels too heavy to do it
Grab your journal:

1. When was the last time you started something with momentum but couldn't stay consistent? What was happening with your energy at that time?

2. What would change if consistency didn't mean "pushing through exhaustion" but "moving forward in a sustainable way"?

3. If your body could talk, what would it say it needs right now to keep showing up?


Here's what to do this week:

1. Notice one moment where you think "I should be doing more." Pause. Ask: "Am I unmotivated, or am I exhausted?" Write it down.

2. Try this week's tapping session. Give your body 10 minutes to release the pressure. See how your energy shifts.

3. Choose ONE thing to stay consistent with this week. Not five. One. Ask yourself: "How can I do this in a way that doesn't drain me?"


If you're tired of your body shutting down every time you try to build momentum, The ​Tapping Studio​ might be exactly what you need. www.alyssacotten.com/3FreeTappings

Your body deserves support—not more pushing. 💗

Alyssa

2 months ago | [YT] | 2

Alyssa Cotten

The April Calendar Is Live—This Is Your Becoming
www.alyssacotten.com/TappingStudio

There comes a point where it’s no longer about doing more.

It’s about becoming different.

April inside The Tapping Studio is about stepping into the version of you who already has what you desire—and teaching your nervous system to feel safe there.

If you’ve been feeling:
• Ready for more, but not fully anchored in it
• On the edge of a new level in your life or business
• Afraid to be fully seen in your power
• Unsure how to hold the success you want

This month was designed for you.

Inside April, you’ll tap through:

– Becoming your future self
– Stepping into leadership and authority
– Calming your nervous system in higher-level environments
– Expanding your capacity for money, visibility, and success
– Releasing the identity that no longer fits

This is where things start to click.

Where you stop chasing your next level—and start embodying it.

📎 Your April calendar is now live inside the portal. Join Here www.alyssacotten.com/TappingStudio

Press play daily.
Let your nervous system catch up to the life you’re ready for.

With you,
Alyssa

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2 months ago | [YT] | 0

Alyssa Cotten

Have you ever noticed that you can't seem to start things even though you know exactly what to do?

Like, you have the ideas. You have the energy. You even have the time.

But something in your body just... won't move.

You scroll instead. You clean the kitchen. You reorganize your desk. Anything but the thing you're "supposed" to do.

You're not lazy. You're not unmotivated. You're not broken.

You're in functional freeze.

What Is Functional Freeze?
Functional freeze is what happens when your body gets stuck in a stress response—but you're still functioning on the outside.

You show up. You get things done. You look fine.

But on the inside:

✨Nothing feels exciting anymore
✨Starting tasks feels impossible (even simple ones)
✨You're numb or flat instead of anxious
✨You know what to do, but your body won't cooperate
✨Rest doesn't help because you're not actually tired—you're frozen
✨This isn't burnout. This isn't depression. This is your nervous system stuck in shutdown mode.

And the worst part? Most people don't even realize they're in it.

Journal Prompts
📱Where in my life do I know exactly what to do but feel unable to start?
📱What does my body actually feel like when I sit down to take action?
📱If this is protection, what might my nervous system be trying to protect me from?

Action Steps
1.Name it in real time​
When you notice yourself avoiding, say: this is a freeze response, not a character flaw.
2. Shift from thinking to sensing​
Instead of trying to figure it out, bring attention into your body. Notice breath, tension, or numbness.
3. Regulate before you execute​
Do not force productivity from a dysregulated state. Use tapping or breathwork first, then re approach the task.

I Just Made a Video on This https://youtu.be/r8NEPWdyRfU?si=NJlS4...
I recorded a full EFT tapping sequence to help you move out of functional freeze and back into flow.

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