Darrin Coulter

< Signal Check >


I’ve been talking about this topic a lot lately:


When “Pushing Harder” actually makes things worse.


For example, if something already feels “off”
but instead of pausing or creating space, you push harder.


That’s usually where things start to break down.


It can show up as:

• burnout / isolation
• overthinking
• starting and stopping


Pushing harder isn’t always the issue.


Ignoring the behavioral signal is.


Make sure you’re not consistently overriding something that’s telling you to step back.


👉 Right now, what is showing up more for you?

1 month ago | [YT] | 0

Darrin Coulter

Many of us have had moments of overexplaining.

Getting to the bottom of why is important, because most of time we don’t need more words to get our point(s) across.

Recognizing signals can be very valuable.

No hype. Just orientation.

2 months ago | [YT] | 0

Darrin Coulter

< Signal Check >

There are many highly capable adults with ADHD that tend to reopen decisions long after they’re made.

A very common occurrence, and for some, a very unsettling one.

This often happens when the brain doesn’t completely close the loop.

Recognizing this signal is the first step toward steadiness.

No hype. Just orientation.

2 months ago | [YT] | 1

Darrin Coulter

Signal Check: Conversation and Situation Replay

After a conversation or situation ends…

Does your mind keep revisiting the moment?

“How did I sound?”
“Should I have said that differently?”
“Was my tone too harsh?”

The friction usually doesn’t come from the conversation/situation itself.

It’s the mind stuck in the decision loop.

The conscious decision to close the loop and move forward is imperative.

That’s steadiness.

3 months ago | [YT] | 0

Darrin Coulter

Inconsistency and unsteadiness are common challenges for highly capable adults with ADHD.

To make improvements isn’t about having to become someone different.

It’s about recognizing signals and supporting who you already are.

3 months ago | [YT] | 0

Darrin Coulter

Where do you feel least steady right now?

3 months ago | [YT] | 0

Darrin Coulter

I like to have ADHD conversations beyond coping.

More specifically, stability and control.

Whether it be emotional control, decision, control or capacity.

Leading ourselves effectively starts with structure.

That’s how consistency happens.

I’m formalizing these weekly Signal Checks into something more structured.

No hype. Just structure. Built for growth.

More soon.

3 months ago (edited) | [YT] | 0

Darrin Coulter

Working to understand ADHD is more than just self-awareness.

It’s pattern recognition.

When you see where dysregulation occurs,
execution becomes easier.

Clarity changes everything because structure does.

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No hype. Just orientation.

4 months ago | [YT] | 0

Darrin Coulter

Signal Check 👉 Motivation

We all lose motivation (and yes, that’s okay).

Here are some helpful questions to ask when reduced motivation hits you the hardest.


1. What signals happen right before I lose momentum?


2. What signals appear when things are flowing?


3. Which signals do I actually ignore because I’m pushing through the friction?

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When signals go unchecked:

- confidence slips ❌
- effort multiplies ❌
- self criticism is amplified ❌

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Signal Check is about detecting the cues early, before things spiral.

Steady listening can lead to steadier decisions.

No hype. Just orientation. 🤝

4 months ago (edited) | [YT] | 0

Darrin Coulter

Clarity is about seeing.

The better we understand how our brain operates, the less shame we carry and the more control we gain.

It’s about direction.

Turbulence isn’t negative.

Maybe you’re just early the clarity process.

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No hype. Just orientation.

4 months ago | [YT] | 0