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Dr. Alice

Dr. Alice Mills Mai, Ph.D. | Ghanaian-American EMDR clinician and vicarious resilience researcher. This channel slows down cultural conversations to examine what is happening beneath the reactions through the lens of trauma, the nervous system, and diaspora life. New videos weekly. Find me on TikTok and Instagram @dralice.phd

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May all the lover girls meet healthy, fulfilling, nurturing love. In all the forms it can take. There are many things in this life we may have to let go of. But love should not be one of them. You have to believe in love up until your last breath.
Not fantasy love.
Not performance love.
Not the Disney version.
Not the love that sweeps you off your feet and leaves your nervous system dysregulated.

I’m talking about real love. Honest love. Healthy love. Life-changing love.

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Dr. Alice

❌ “Why didn’t you just leave?”

This question doesn’t help survivors. It exposes how we’ve built systems that abandon them.

I’ve worked with Black survivors, queer survivors, and criminalized survivors, and every step revealed one truth: the systems designed to protect are the same systems failing them.

💔 Anti-violence programs can’t meet basic needs.
⚖️ The legal system punishes survival.
👥 Communities blame survivors instead of abusers.

The deepest wound? Survivors are blamed no matter what choice they make.

This Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I’m not just reflecting. I’m challenging us to do better.
Because real change begins when we stop asking survivors why they stayed — and start asking ourselves what we’re doing to change a rigged system.

📌 Save + Share to challenge stigma.
👂 What will you do differently?
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#domesticviolenceawarenessmonth