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Being humble should not make you dim your light or make yourself smaller.

We are made to believe that humility means being quiet when you have something to share and being agreeable when you don’t want to be. This is not humility. Being humble is knowing that just as you’re not more important than anyone, no one is more important than you are, and for that, your voice counts just as anyone else’s.

1 week ago | [YT] | 8

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Let me share a big lie we were told about being silent 🤫🤐

The lie is that the more silent you are the more respectful or polite you are. This is something I experienced firsthand and I know many people especially girls grew up thinking the same.

In many cultures this is either explicitly taught or silently reinforced.

Some of us eventually break away from this mindset but if it carries over into professional settings it can have consequences.

Some repercussions I’ve observed:

- You might miss out on opportunities because you don’t speak up
- Staying silent can create the impression that you are not qualified because others don’t know what you do
- You may feel internally like you are not contributing enough
- Valuable tasks or projects might not come your way if you don’t ask for them
- Your contributions might go unacknowledged

If any of this resonates and at any point, you felt, ‘that is me,’ it’s worth reflecting on how you communicate moving forward.

The first step is acknowledging it and evaluating your communication skills.

Take a deep dive: what do you want to change, how do you want to show up, and what steps will help you get there?

In a world where visibility is increasingly becoming currency, we must develop the ability to state our case, share our ideas, and advocate for ourselves, especially as women.

If this hits home, I hope you consider this your sign to start working on it today. I wrote this post as a wake-up call and truly hope it helps someone.

Please share if you found this helpful 🔁

2 weeks ago | [YT] | 4

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I’ve learned that knowing when to stop speaking is such an underrated skill.

“Less is more” doesn’t just apply to design, it applies to how we communicate too. Sometimes, in trying to prove ourselves or get our point across, we forget that value matters more than volume.

Using fewer words can:
• Make your message clearer and easier to understand
• Reduce confusion from unnecessary details
• Give others space to ask questions or engage
• Help you avoid contradicting yourself

Not knowing when to pause can also make it seem like you don’t fully trust your own ideas.

Knowing when to stop speaking is just as important as knowing when to start speaking.

Have you ever caught yourself saying more than you needed to?

1 month ago | [YT] | 4

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I discovered this from a very early age.

You can be on the quiet, less talkative, introverted, or ambiverted side and still be able to communicate with confidence, clarity, and presence. It all rests on your messaging, presentation, body language, and trusting yourself and your ideas enough to know they deserve to be heard.

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1 month ago | [YT] | 2

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It’s fascinating how random experiences are sometimes the best teachers.

I had a quick chat with a woman I met at an eatery last week and thought it would be a great story to share with you.

I arrived at work in good spirits and went to get breakfast. One of the workers in the cafeteria had a brief conversation with me, and this is where it got interesting. After speaking to me for what seemed like 30 seconds, she went on to say I looked “calm.”

This didn’t surprise me, but what did was what followed. She said, “I can read you; I have been reading you the whole time you’ve been here.” Then she went on and on about how she could read me and what she believed was my personality type.

Reflecting on that interaction, I realised a core part of what I teach about the power of non-verbal communication was on display. I strongly believe that our energy often speaks before we do, making it important to be mindful of the non-verbal cues we’re putting out into the world. You (yes, you) and the people around you pick up on it, and it can influence how you feel about yourself, how people treat you, and, to an extent, the opportunities you are offered.

I know we all function in different spaces, with different people, under different circumstances. This means that we may show up differently in different environments, and that is expected. With that said, it is necessary to be intentional about how we show up and engage, especially where it matters. This could be in a meeting, at an interview, on stage, at a networking event, or even on a date.

Whether we like it or not, just like auntie from the eatery, people will create stories about us before we even get a chance to express ourselves verbally. This is because non-verbal cues are a powerful part of communication, and you can use them to your benefit when you are grounded in who you are and have built inner self-trust.

I guess this is the perfect time to tell you I’ll be speaking on this subject at the Women’s Wellbeing Summit in London next month. If you’re a woman in London, you’re welcome to register to join us ⬇️

www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/womens-wellbeing-summit-202…

1 month ago | [YT] | 4

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Are you straightforward, or are you being insensitive?

This generated some interest when I shared a video on so I thought to share it with the community here.

I find it concerning how easily the line between insensitivity and bluntness can be crossed, so I wanted to hit the nail on the head with this.

While I appreciate the idea of straightforwardness, I am a firm believer in reading the room. Different situations require communicating in different ways, and it’s up to us to learn how to read them and respond accordingly.

Sometimes people equate being insensitive with being direct, and I’ve always struggled with this.

I come from a culture where some people describe themselves as plain, straightforward, blunt, and “honest,” and deliver things matter-of-factly, even in situations where they could have framed the message differently or waited for a more opportune time.

For example, if someone nervously performs in front of a large crowd and you didn’t feel moved by their performance, what happens next?

At the end of the performance, while they’re still in the heat of the moment, surrounded by family and friends and feeling anxious about how it went, if they ask, “How did I do?”, would your first sentence be, “OMG, that was mortifying!!”?

Or imagine someone going through highs and lows to prepare a presentation at work, and the first thing you do is tear it down in the name of “feedback” without acknowledging the positives (I believe there is always a positive).

I have often observed that this is a quality people pride themselves on.

While I believe being straightforward can be beneficial in many cases, it is sometimes insensitivity masked as plainness. I also think that, in many situations, people genuinely believe they are being helpful.

While I do not claim to be the morality police, I believe communication plays a crucial role here, and that is my sweet spot, so here we are.

If this applies to you, how can you handle this going forward?

This is my suggestion.

Take a moment to breathe and ask yourself:
• What kind of feedback will be beneficial right now?
• Is this urgent, and must they know this immediately?
• Would it affect them differently if I framed this another way?
• Would there be another opportunity for an honest conversation when they are in a better mental space?
• Am I doing this to satisfy my ego, or am I truly trying to help?

I am all for being straightforward when you must be, but it’s always important to read the room.

Remember: The message, and how you choose to convey it, is entirely up to you.

Being straightforward without regard for how it may affect others can be the easy route. Waiting patiently and finding the right time and approach is what truly distinguishes you.

I’d be interested to hear your thoughts or experiences with this.

2 months ago | [YT] | 4

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Why do capable women still hesitate to speak up in meetings?

I’ve had the privilege of sitting in many rooms, and I don’t think the issue is that we lack ideas or solutions. Often, it isn’t even about technical communication advice or learning how to perfectly structure a message.

It’s self-assuredness and audacity.

I was at AllBright’s Step Forward Summit for International Women’s Day this month and observed that women's confidence dominated a lot of conversations, demonstrating how crucial this is to our progress.

So if you’re a woman, today I am reminding you to not only be confident but audacious!

What society often gives men permission to have is audacity, shaping how confidently they often show up, even if they are not as skilled as the women in those spaces.

I’m not encouraging women to be someone they’re not, and I’m certainly not suggesting we become like men. I am encouraging us to have the audacity to share our ideas. The audacity to speak up even when your voice shakes the first time. The audacity to question unfairness.

The ability to present your point clearly with confidence and tact creates real advantages.

I’m also not saying you must be loud if that’s not your personality. I mean be audacious, and that often begins with a decision to be courageous and confident, often starting with how you communicate with yourself.

As you go into the week, if you find yourself in a meeting holding back a great idea for fear of being judged, remember this word: audacity.

It should not be the privilege of a few people to be heard.

Your voice counts too.

In what small way do you think people can start being audacious?

2 months ago | [YT] | 4

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I used to enjoy reading… then I didn’t (ish). Now I do. Why does it matter?

The other day I was thinking about the books I loved as a child. Then I remembered one of my favourites, Dick Whittington! I must have been around 7 or 8 when I first read it. In my childhood brain, I even composed a little song in my head for the line that read, “Turn back, Whittington, Lord Mayor of London…”

Of course, I’d never been to London or even imagined that decades later I’d find myself living in the city, but I remember thinking it was a place far, far away!

When I was growing up, there were four main ways I had access to books and reading material: from school (I became Library Prefect in junior high school 😄), borrowing from the Ghana Library Board library, books passed on from cousins, and my favourite of all, my mom.

My mom buying material for me to read, I now realise, was a love language.

My favourite newspaper was the Junior Graphic, a newspaper for younger readers that came out every Wednesday. I would often come home from school with one. I remember my mom once asking me where I got the newspaper, and I told her I bought it using some of my lunch money. From that day on, she would come home from work on Wednesdays with a Junior Graphic for me - the sheer delight!

So, where did I “fall off” with reading?

As I progressed on the academic ladder, I was no longer reading for enjoyment; I was reading for grades. Cram, memorise, do whatever you can to keep moving forward. Years passed and somewhere along the way I forgot, or maybe unconsciously convinced myself to forget, that I could just… read.

Now I am rediscovering that joy. I am enjoying reading and gaining inspiration from all sorts of places, including the most unexpected one: TikTok (I know).

So, why does this matter?

It is interesting to see how I have come full circle, observing how we evolve and how growth shows up. Not everything is linear. For example, I love self help books, but I may decide to read completely different books six months from now, or not. Our experiences may plateau, hit highs and lows. We may change and become unrecognisable even to ourselves, but that is all part of the journey.

As I write this, I am curious about other people’s experiences. Do you have any childhood memories connected to books or reading?

2 months ago | [YT] | 1

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Love, love this message from ‪@LesBrownSpeaks‬. Heard it in one of his messages and had to write it down. If only we all understood and appreciated this! The nugget is, think about where you can possibly be and not where you have been 👌

4 months ago | [YT] | 5

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Always remember, you have what it takes to move your life in the direction you want it.

Zee ❤️

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