Rise After Divorce in Midlife

At some point, your life stops revolving around the narcissist…
and starts revolving around you again.
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Your peace.
Your nervous system.
Your future.
Your joy.
Your relationships.
Your sense of self.
For a long time, survival mode can make us emotionally orbit difficult people.
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Analysing them.
Trying to understand them.
Trying to prevent pain.
Trying to feel safe.
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But eventually, healing becomes about learning how to live again.
How to feel emotionally safe inside yourself.
How to trust your own decisions.
How to stop abandoning yourself in relationships.
How to create a life that actually feels calm and nourishing.
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That is the deeper work.
And honestly?
That’s where life really begins opening up again.
I’ve just completed my YouTube series, Rise After Divorce, and I’m now moving into a brand new series focused on Dating After Divorce for Women.
Because there really is life — and love — beyond survival mode.
lots of love
Sarah

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 0

Rise After Divorce in Midlife

Live Training at 6pm bst tomorrow evening. It's inside my free Facebook Support Group. You are warmly invited to come along and join us. Click the link in the comments

1 month ago | [YT] | 0

Rise After Divorce in Midlife

One of the toughest parts of healing after divorce is that people often expect you to “move on” long before your nervous system is ready.


So you carry on.


You go through the motions of everyday life.
You function on the outside.


But every now and again, something catches you off guard:


⁉️ seeing how well the ex appears to be doing
⁉️ wondering if the marriage meant anything to them at all
⁉️ remembering some of the good times
⁉️ questioning why you still feel emotionally affected


And suddenly the feelings return:
😥 regret
😥 anger
😥 sadness



It can feel confusing, especially when years have passed and you thought you “should” be further along by now.


It’s easy to get distracted instead:


✔️staying busy
✔️emotionally shutting down
✔️reaching for unhealthy coping mechanisms
✔️trying not to think about it


But emotional pain that has never been safely processed often resurfaces when we least expect it. It’s not your fault. It’s more common than many women realise.


That doesn’t mean you’re failing.
And it doesn’t mean you’re weak-willed.


It usually means part of your nervous system is still stuck in survival mode.
If you’re functioning on the outside but still feel emotionally stuck after divorce, you’re welcome to message me and we can talk about what support might look like for you.

1 month ago | [YT] | 0

Rise After Divorce in Midlife

One of the hardest parts of healing after divorce is realising that even months—or years—later, certain memories can still hit hard emotionally.


Sometimes it’s something small:


😥clearing out old photographs
😥something you read in a divorce group
😥something you see on TV
😥even the thought of dating again


And suddenly your body reacts before your mind has time to catch up.


This is far more common than many women realise after emotional trauma.
Your nervous system is trying to protect you from a perceived threat, which can pull you back into survival mode very quickly.


The good news is that these reactions don’t mean you are failing or “back at the beginning.”


They are often signs that your nervous system still needs safety, regulation and support to fully move through what happened.


Healing isn’t just about understanding the trauma logically.
It’s about helping your body feel safe enough to let go of survival mode too.


If this resonates with where you are right now, you’re welcome to reach out or book a conversation with me through the link in my profile.

1 month ago | [YT] | 1

Rise After Divorce in Midlife

In this video, I offer training in how to manage post-separation abuse. This is by far the most dangerous time to detach from the toxic ex. Even if you experienced this years ago, you may still have some stored trauma relating to those times. The good news is with the right approach and understanding your nervous system, you can navigate this situation more effectively and actually stay sane and safe.
Check out my latest upload https://youtu.be/8mVYc7KQ8NQ

1 month ago | [YT] | 0

Rise After Divorce in Midlife

Despite everything you’ve worked through… are you still stuck in survival mode?
You’ve done so much already.
You’ve:
👍left the relationship
👍faced the emotional impact
👍started rebuilding your boundaries
And yet…
You still feel like you’re managing life rather than truly living it.
This is something I see often.
Your “survival self” is still running the show.
🧠She’s not wrong—she’s been protecting you.
🧠But she doesn’t know how to help you move forward.
So even after healing, you can feel:
😑flat
😑cautious
😑disconnected from what you actually want
This is the stage where many women get stuck.
Not because they haven’t done the work

but because they haven’t been shown how to move beyond survival.
If this resonates, I’d be really interested to hear:
What still feels hardest for you right now?

1 month ago | [YT] | 1

Rise After Divorce in Midlife

Is recovering from a toxic divorce actually enough?
You’ve done the work:

✅ You’ve made it through the heartbreak
✅ You’ve faced the betrayals
✅ You’ve built stronger boundaries
✅ You’ve broken that trauma bond
And yet…

😐You still feel flat.
😐 Disconnected.
😐Like your life hasn’t fully come back online.
🤫This is the part no one talks about.


This is where many high-functioning women stay stuck for years...
because healing your past isn’t the same as rebuilding who you are now.
That’s the stage most women never get shown how to move through.

💜 If you’re functioning… but not truly living yet, there is a way to shift out of this.

I’ve shared more about this in my latest video.

If it resonates, you’re welcome to message me and I’ll talk you through how I support women through this stage.





https://youtu.be/otKnxPIOnQU

1 month ago (edited) | [YT] | 0

Rise After Divorce in Midlife

Hope Everyone had a lovely Easter break? We certainly did. I was able to take more time to try out a new style of visual to include in my videos. Here's my latest upload. Let me know what you think. https://youtu.be/iv7XgVvTJWk

2 months ago | [YT] | 0

Rise After Divorce in Midlife

I've got my voice back thank goodness! Here's my latest deep dive video, essential viewing if you are in conflict with a narcissistic ex, whether it's financials, custody, other legals or any other nefarious situation they are trying to put you in. I tell my story and I explain how you can fight and win on multiple levels but not in the ways that are immediately obvious. In fact, this approach is a good general strategy for dealing with any narcissistic entanglement. The best bit is, not just the 'winning' but you get to witness the narc. be on the receiving end of their own 'bad karma'.
Happy Viewing - you've got this! https://youtu.be/C8IoHHDdvpg?si=2mp69...

2 months ago (edited) | [YT] | 0

Rise After Divorce in Midlife

Apologies for the lack of recent uploads, I've not been able to talk much due to a viral throat infection... uggh! When my voice is upto it, I will continue with my next round of videos....
In case you missed it, here is my last video, which explains how to 'defeat' the narcissist!

2 months ago | [YT] | 0