Relationship Coach Deborrah Cooper

Question: What advice would you give to your 18 year old self about life that might change who and what you are today?

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 16

Relationship Coach Deborrah Cooper

A man goes to his barber …
… and whilst getting his haircut, they have a conversation.

The barber says, “got any vacation plans?”

The customer goes, “yeah, me and my wife are going to Italy.”

“That's bullshit,” the barber barks. “Italy's totally overrated. Why do you want to go anyway? I went and it's terrible. The food's awful. The Romanesque architecture is old and dirty. The people are rude and aloof. The weather's too hot or it's too rainy. And when I tried to see the Pope, I could barely make out the top of his head through the millions of people in St. Peter's Square.”

The customer is surprised by the barber's visceral reaction and sheepishly states that he already bought the ticket, so he still has to go. A couple of months later, the customer is back in the barber's chair.

“Hey, aren't you the guy that went to that crappy country called Italy?”

Yeah, and we actually had a great time, said the customer. “The food was better than I imagined. The architecture was breathtaking and awe-inspiring, and the people were really polite and friendly. The weather was beautiful, perfectly sunny and warm, and no rain. And when we went to see the Pope, I could barely make out the top of his head through the millions of people in St. Peter's Square. But gradually, the sea of people parted as if by magic, and I could see the Pope walking toward me with his gold scepter. And when he got close enough to me to be heard, I dropped to one knee. took off my hat and he said, “who gave you that awful haircut?”

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 17

Relationship Coach Deborrah Cooper

Dark Humor

A man takes his wife to the doctor and after en exam and some tests, the doctor comes out to talk with the husband. The husband is anxious and says “ Doctor did you find out what is wrong with my wife?” The doctor says, “ Well, we have narrowed it down “. The husband says, “ What does that mean?” The doctor says “ Well have narrowed it down to two possibilities. Your wife has either AIDS or Alzheimer’s “. The husband is shocked and says, “ AIDS or Alzheimer’s? What should l do?” The doctor says, “ Here’s what I suggest. Put her in the car and drive her somewhere 20 miles or do from where you live and make her get out of the car and then you go back home. If she finds her way home, don’t fuck her.

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Relationship Coach Deborrah Cooper

This video is about 17 black female celebs who didn't know their husbands were secretly gay. I looked at it, and every single one of these guys looked gay to me. Maybe that is a benefit of growing up in San Francisco - I cut my teeth watching gay men of all ethnicities and all ages interact with both men and women.

Seriously, these days most men are dabbling it seems. Even if they aren't claiming it, they sneak and do it here and there, have a boyfriend and a wife/girlfriend, or just haven't admitted yet while maintaining relationships with other men. I see what goes on online where they flirt and seek out trans women (men with male equipment). Women really REALLY need to wise up and dump these dudes anytime suspicion of male alliance crops up.

https://youtu.be/gUSkg3sNEeY?si=ApsA_...

3 weeks ago | [YT] | 9

Relationship Coach Deborrah Cooper

Another woman dead at the hands of an athlete

Darron Lee, Former NFL Linebacker, Indicted With Charges Linked To Partner’s Death
A grand jury under the Hamilton Court on June 10 returned a first-degree murder indictment on Darron Lee. The 31-year-old former NFL linebacker is facing these charges in connection with the death of his partner, Gabriella Perpetuo, in February 2026. She was found dead inside a home in Ooltewah, Tennessee. The victim’s death was declared a clear case of homicide after an autopsy report.

Medical examiners reportedly identified a total of 12 distinct injuries all over her body, including severe brain trauma, broken neck, and subdural hematoma, among others. There were also suspicious bite marks found on her body. Lee is currently booked in the Hamilton County Jail without a bond.

Darron Lee’s Involvement In Partner’s Murder
The state is reportedly proceeding with first-degree murder charges against Lee, alleging that he was responsible for Perpetuo’s death. Investigators also uncovered digital evidence that prosecutors say raises additional questions about the case, including searches and inquiries made using artificial intelligence tools.

For instance, investigators said Lee used ChatGPT to seek information about obtaining medical assistance without police involvement. According to prosecutors, he also asked whether a fall from a certain height could cause two black eyes and two “stabby looking wounds.”

Prosecutors presented additional digital evidence that allegedly showed Lee searching for information about injuries consistent with a person falling in a shower. Prosecutors argue that the searches support their theory of the case and suggest an attempt to conceal the circumstances surrounding Perpetuo’s death. In the meantime, authorities continue to investigate a possible motive in the case.

Horrific Crime Scene Findings
On the day authorities entered the victim’s residence, they encountered what investigators described as a disturbing crime scene. Detective Brian Lockhart testified that traces of blood were found in nearly every room of the house, including on handrails, walls, floors, and the staircase.

Other items found inside the residence included a shattered microwave, glass shards throughout the home, and numerous alcohol bottles. Investigators also found an empty spray bottle and bleach wipes. Prosecutors argued that these items suggested an attempt to clean the scene and remove evidence.

Lockhart further testified that Lee was the person who called 911 and reported finding the victim unresponsive. According to investigators, Lee told authorities that his 29-year-old girlfriend may have suffered a fatal fall in the shower.

Darron Lee’s Dark Past With Similar Episodes
This has not been the first indictment that Lee is facing. His past has been one that was dotted with multiple previous convictions as well as an active probation period. At the time of his arrest in the murder case of his girlfriend, Lee was under a probation watch in Ohio for a 2023 case of domestic violence against him.

Additionally, he was also on another simultaneous probation under Alachua County, Florida. He had been charged with aggravated assault with a deadly weapon. The other convictions in the past of the former NFL player include three different assault cases against a man and his family members.

1 month ago | [YT] | 41

Relationship Coach Deborrah Cooper

ADVICE QUESTION: Wife's emotional affair ….considering telling the other partner

So my wife had an emotional affair with a man she works with. We have talked about it, and she denies that anything physical ever happened. I cannot confirm physical contact… but I do have evidence of sexual/flirtatious text messages between them that clearly crossed boundaries. Evidence is screen shots of their texts.

This has left me struggling with trust and a lot of uncertainty. I’ve been trying to process it and decide how to move forward and my wife and I are trying to work it out. One thing to note with this is… I am pretty sure this guy is unstable.. and I worry what could happen as revenge back to me. Plus my wife and I have one kid together.

One part I’m stuck on is whether I should contact the other person’s girlfriend. I don’t know her, and I’ve never met her. But I keep thinking that if I were in her position, I would want to know if my partner was involved in something like this. But what worries me is I have no clue what chaos this could cause…

What should I do?

DEBS ANSWER:
Sir, you do not think about tattling like a kid to the guy's girlfriend like she is his mommy. You need to man up and focus solely on what is going on in YOUR marriage with YOUR woman.

As confusing and frightening as it might be, you need to have a serious conversation with your wife. Keep your emotions in check and use your logic and reason brain for this.

You are going to calmly hold her hands and look into her eyes, and ask her from your heart what was going on with her that made this seem like a solution? What needs did she have that were not being met? You will sit quietly and let her answer at her speed. You will not make faces. You will not rush her. You will not breathe loud or roll your eyes or move around in a frustrated manner. The only thing you can do is maybe if she is struggling, reassure her and bring her in for a hug and tell her that you love her and want you two to be together for many years to come. You're not blaming her, you're trying to understand. Say those words.

Then listen. Without judgment. Without comment. Make a mental note of what she says so you can think about it later and maybe ask advice on what to do with the info you got.

I'm getting the feeling that she is insecure and the type of lady that needs her man to flirt with her, validate her in different ways, and reassure her that she is attractive and interesting to him. She needs romantic validation. Those are the women who are more vulnerable to this type of situation from predatory gaming guys who can smell neediness/insecurity and have no problem filling in the gap husbands and boyfriend leave in their relationships for their own benefit.

You MUST have this hard conversation with her. Do not argue about why she didn't tell you. Do not yell about how you don't understand and it makes no sense. Don't you dare try to blame her. You are on a fact finding mission sir. You need info so you get a handle on your wife's mental and emotional state, and can map out a plan to keep your marriage intact and protect your wife from herself.

1 month ago | [YT] | 29

Relationship Coach Deborrah Cooper

May Dayz Starts today! Each of the 3 days of 4 hour livestreams has special guests. we will also do relationship questions. and I have some articles I want to talk about regarding new dating trends. Tune in at 3 pm PST

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1 month ago | [YT] | 16

Relationship Coach Deborrah Cooper

I am facilitating a webinar on Alzheimer's and Dementia on the morning of Wednesday, May 20th. If you or someone you know is dealing with this crisis, please send this link along so they can register. t.ly/dementia

1 month ago | [YT] | 23

Relationship Coach Deborrah Cooper

Why do I keep changing the show? For two reasons I didn't want to say but the replacements are not here yet. My light and my greenscreen were both broken when one of my cousins (J) and a friend of another cousin who is a bit younger (M) got into a fight. M's friend was being disrespectful and inappropriate with a third cousin's (A - who is only 16) little girlfriend. M told him to quit. He kept on anyway. Just stupid.
So J who studied martial arts for a time, stepped in and tossed him around a bit of emphasis how important it was that he stop disrespecting the child in aunty's house. My stuff and one of aunty's table lamps broke. My studio lamp frame bent and the glass and bulb got busted. The frame on my green screen was crushed into a U shape after dude landed on it. LOLOL. I mean it's funny NOW almost 2 weeks later, but I was PISSED. I ordered replacements but they are taking forever to arrive from New York. I don't know when they will come so I keep pushing the date out. :/ So now you know the reason.

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