Empowering Women in Conversations

Stop Waiting to Be Chosen (Part 2): The Confidence Shift That Changes Everything | Julie DeLucca-Collins
What happens after you stop waiting for someone else to choose you?

In Part 2 of this powerful conversation, I sit down with Julie DeLucca-Collins to talk about the confidence shift that happens when you begin defining yourself, trusting your voice, and taking small steps toward the life you actually want.

We talk about friendships, loneliness, community, identity, tiny habits, self-compassion, and why confidence is not built through perfection. It is built by continuing to show up.

In this episode, you will learn:

• Why being called “difficult” may mean you are finally speaking up
• How to recognize people who support your growth
• Why healing can feel lonely before you find your people
• How “believing mirrors” help you see your strengths
• Why small habits create lasting change
• How to celebrate progress instead of focusing on the gap
• Why you need to revisit your values and your life
• How to give your past meaning without letting it define you
• What it truly means to become an empowered woman

Julie and I also share personal stories about identity, motherhood, healing, confidence, and learning to give ourselves grace.

You do not need someone else to define your worth.

You do not have to wait to be chosen.

You can choose yourself.

🎁 Download the Free Confidence Reset

Take one small step today and end the day with proof that you can trust yourself.

www.anitasandoval.com/the-confidence-reset

🌟 Connect With Julie DeLucca-Collins

Julie DeLucca-Collins is a TEDx speaker, bestselling author, business strategist, Certified Holistic Coach, CBT Coach, and Tiny Habits Coach. She helps women build confidence, grow their visibility, and become trusted leaders in their work.

Website:
www.goconfidentlycoaching.com/

Instagram:
www.instagram.com/julie_deluccacollins/

LinkedIn:
www.linkedin.com/in/goconfidentlyjulie/

Facebook:
www.facebook.com/jdelucca

YouTube:
youtube.com/@JulieDeLuccaCollins

Email:
Julie@GoConfidentlyCoaching.com

🎙️ Keep Listening

Listen to previous episodes of Empowering Women in Conversations for more conversations about:

• People-pleasing
• Confidence and self-trust
• Boundaries
• Toxic relationships
• Identity and self-worth
• Emotional healing
• Women’s empowerment

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About the Podcast

Empowering Women in Conversations is hosted by Anita Sandoval, LPC-S, founder of EmpowerHer Pathways.

These conversations help women move beyond people-pleasing, regain their voice and power, and reconnect with their identity.

#WomenEmpowerment #ConfidenceForWomen #StopWaitingToBeChosen #SelfTrust #PeoplePleasingRecovery #IdentityHealing #TinyHabits #JulieDeLuccaCollins #EmpoweringWomenInConversations

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Empowering Women in Conversations

💔 What if the thing keeping you stuck isn't the person...

but the hope they'll become who you need them to be?

I created a free worksheet called:

✨ The Illusion vs. Reality Exercise

to help you:

💜 Identify the illusion you're holding onto

💜 Separate facts from wishes

💜 Understand the cost of holding on

💜 Move toward acceptance and healing
www.anitasandoval.com/the-confidence-reset

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💜 SUMMER 26 CHALLENGE 💜

I need your help.

I'm participating in a Summer 26 challenge, and today's assignment is to ask a question and listen.

So here I am asking. 😊

I'm working on something for women around people-pleasing, boundaries, confidence, and learning to trust themselves more.

I'd love your honest answer:

✨ What's the biggest struggle you have with people-pleasing right now?

Maybe it's:
• Saying no
• Feeling guilty
• Worrying what others think
• Putting yourself last
• Trusting yourself

Or maybe it's something completely different.

There are no right or wrong answers.

I genuinely want to hear from you, and I'll personally read every comment and DM.

Thank you for helping me learn more about what women are struggling with right now. 💜

👇 Comment below or send me a DM.

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💜 People Pleaser Humor... but also not really. 😅

If you've ever said "yes" when you wanted to say "no," rearranged your entire schedule to avoid disappointing someone, or found yourself exhausted and resentful while telling everyone you're "fine"...

Welcome. You're among friends. 🙋‍♀️

Many of us learned that being helpful meant being lovable.
That saying no meant being selfish.
That everyone else's needs should come before our own.

The problem?

People-pleasing often looks like kindness on the outside while creating burnout on the inside.

Healing isn't about becoming selfish.

It's about learning that your needs matter too.

✨ You can be compassionate without self-abandonment.
✨ You can be caring without overextending yourself.
✨ You can say no and still be a good person.

Now be honest...

What's the most ridiculous thing you've agreed to do when you were already overwhelmed? 👀👇

#PeoplePleasing #Boundaries #PeoplePleaserRecovery #WomenEmpowerment #SelfWorth #BurnoutRecovery #EmotionalHealth #HealingJourney #EmpowerHerPathways #AnitaSandovalLPC #TherapyHumor #MentalHealthAwareness

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Confidence is not a feeling.

It’s a decision.

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Julie DeLucca-Collins — TEDx speaker, bestselling author, and business strategist — to unpack the confidence myth so many women believe.

Why do we wait to feel ready?
Why do we wait to be chosen?
And what does it actually take to build real self-trust?

In this episode, we explore:

• Why confidence isn’t a feeling
• How comparison steals momentum
• The danger of external validation
• What radical self-trust really looks like
• How to stop waiting and start choosing yourself

This is honest. Grounded. And deeply empowering.

🎙 Season 4 • Episode 38
Stop Waiting to Be Chosen
Part 1: The Confidence Myth Women Believe
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🎁 FREE CONFIDENCE RESET GUIDE

Stop waiting to be chosen.

Get a quick win today.

👉 Download the free Confidence Reset Guide here:
www.anitasandoval.com/the-confidence-reset-1

You will:
• Pick one action
• Do it today
• End the day with proof you can trust yourself

🌟 Connect with Julie DeLucca-Collins
‪@JulieDeLuccaCollins‬

Website: goconfidentlycoaching.com/
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/goconfidentlyjulie/
Instagram: www.instagram.com/julie_deluccacollins/
YouTube: youtube.com/@JulieDeLuccaCollins
Email: Julie@GoConfidentlyCoaching.com

🎙 About the Podcast

Empowering Women in Conversations
Hosted by Anita Sandoval, LPC-S

Helping women stop people-pleasing, build confidence, and live authentically.

Subscribe for weekly conversations on identity, self-trust, boundaries, emotional healing, and growth.

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You know you’re healing when you stop asking:

👉 “Will they choose me?”

…and start asking:

👉 “Can I stay myself here?”

There was a version of me that:
✨ overthought everything
✨ people pleased to belong
✨ feared being alone
✨ confused attention with connection

Now I’m learning:
💛 connection feels different when I don’t abandon myself to keep it.

Healing isn’t becoming cold.
It’s learning:

* boundaries
* authenticity
* self trust
* emotional safety
* how to belong without performing

And honestly?
That shift can feel uncomfortable at first.

🫀 Sometimes your chest tightens.
🧠 Sometimes your brain overthinks.
🌊 Sometimes old fears resurface.

But now you catch yourself before you lose yourself.

POLL👇
A️⃣ Still trying to earn connection
B️⃣ Starting to choose myself

#PeoplePleaserRecovery #HealingJourney #WomenEmpowerment #TraumaHealing #Authenticity #SelfWorth #Boundaries #EMDR #Overthinking #EmpowerHerPathways #PeoplePleasing #RelationshipHealing #InnerHealing #AnxietyHealing

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✨ You don’t have to keep losing yourself just to keep the peace.

So many women were taught to:
• stay quiet
• overgive
• avoid conflict
• carry everyone else’s emotions
• and ignore their own needs

Over time, that can lead to:
💔 burnout
💔 anxiety
💔 emotional exhaustion
💔 toxic relationship patterns
💔 feeling disconnected from yourself

At Positive Awakenings Counseling Center, I help women begin reconnecting with their voice, identity, boundaries, and self-worth through:

✨ Counseling
✨ Coaching
✨ Psychoeducation
✨ Journaling & Reflection Work
✨ Nervous System Awareness
✨ Boundary & Self-Worth Work
✨ Healing from Toxic Relationship Patterns

Healing isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about coming home to who you were always meant to be. 🌸

💌 If you’re ready to begin your healing journey, message me “HEAL” or visit my website to learn more.

#PositiveAwakenings #EmpowerHerPathways #WomenEmpowerment #PeoplePleaserRecovery #TherapyForWomen #CounselingSupport #HealingJourney #SelfWorth #Boundaries #AuthenticLiving #WomenHealingWomen #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaHealing #RelationshipHealing #NervousSystemHealing #LifeCoachingForWomen #TherapistLife #EmotionalHealing #WomenSupportingWomen #PeoplePleasingRecovery

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✨ “I finally got the peace I wanted… so why do I feel so exhausted?”

Sometimes healing doesn’t feel peaceful at first.
Sometimes your body crashes after surviving for too long.

🌿 Burnout isn’t laziness.
It’s emotional survival mode catching up to your body.

#PeoplePleasingRecovery #BurnoutRecovery #HealingJourney #WomenEmpowerment #EmotionalHealing #NervousSystemHealing #PeoplePleaser #TherapyInsights #SelfWorthJourney #EmpowerHerPathways

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💔 “I lost myself trying to be loved.”

And maybe…
you did too.

People-pleasing doesn’t happen because you’re weak.

It often comes from:
✨ fear of rejection
✨ abandonment wounds
✨ walking on eggshells
✨ overexplaining
✨ trying to keep everyone happy
✨ losing yourself just to keep the relationship

Over time, many women stop asking:
“What do I want?”

And start asking:
“What keeps everyone else okay?”

That’s why I created ✨ The EmpowerHer Pathway™ ✨

A 7-stage healing journey helping women move from:
💔 people-pleasing
💔 toxic relationship patterns
💔 emotional exhaustion
💔 losing their voice

➡️ into empowered, authentic living.

The stages include:

1️⃣ Losing Myself
2️⃣ Something’s Not Right
3️⃣ I’m Done Feeling This Way
4️⃣ Choosing Me Even When It Hurts
5️⃣ I’m Starting To Trust Myself
6️⃣ This Is Who I Am
7️⃣ I Catch Myself Now

Because healing isn’t about becoming perfect.

It’s about:
🌸 recognizing the pattern
🌸 reconnecting with yourself
🌸 setting boundaries without guilt
🌸 trusting your voice again
🌸 becoming the version of you that survival mode hid

✨ Which stage are you in right now?

Comment:
1️⃣ 2️⃣ 3️⃣ 4️⃣ 5️⃣ 6️⃣ or 7️⃣

And save this post for the days you forget how far you’ve come. 🤍

#PeoplePleaser #PeoplePleasingRecovery #EmpowerHerPathways #WomenHealing #HealingJourney #ToxicRelationships #Boundaries #SelfWorth #EmotionalHealing #WomenEmpowerment #TraumaHealing #AuthenticLiving #AnxiousAttachment #HealingFromToxicRelationships #SelfLoveJourney #RelationshipHealing #BreakTheCycle #EmpoweredWomen #MentalHealthForWomen #CodependencyRecovery

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Empowering Women in Conversations

💔 “I lost myself trying to be loved.”

And maybe…
you did too.

People-pleasing doesn’t happen because you’re weak.

It often comes from:
✨ fear of rejection
✨ abandonment wounds
✨ walking on eggshells
✨ overexplaining
✨ trying to keep everyone happy
✨ losing yourself just to keep the relationship

Over time, many women stop asking:
“What do I want?”

And start asking:
“What keeps everyone else okay?”

That’s why I created ✨ The EmpowerHer Pathway™ ✨

A 7-stage healing journey helping women move from:
💔 people-pleasing
💔 toxic relationship patterns
💔 emotional exhaustion
💔 losing their voice

➡️ into empowered, authentic living.

The stages include:

1️⃣ Losing Myself
2️⃣ Something’s Not Right
3️⃣ I’m Done Feeling This Way
4️⃣ Choosing Me Even When It Hurts
5️⃣ I’m Starting To Trust Myself
6️⃣ This Is Who I Am
7️⃣ I Catch Myself Now

Because healing isn’t about becoming perfect.

It’s about:
🌸 recognizing the pattern
🌸 reconnecting with yourself
🌸 setting boundaries without guilt
🌸 trusting your voice again
🌸 becoming the version of you that survival mode hid

✨ Which stage are you in right now?

Comment:
1️⃣ 2️⃣ 3️⃣ 4️⃣ 5️⃣ 6️⃣ or 7️⃣

And save this post for the days you forget how far you’ve come. 🤍

#PeoplePleaser #PeoplePleasingRecovery #EmpowerHerPathways #WomenHealing #HealingJourney #ToxicRelationships #Boundaries #SelfWorth #EmotionalHealing #WomenEmpowerment #TraumaHealing #AuthenticLiving #AnxiousAttachment #HealingFromToxicRelationships #SelfLoveJourney #RelationshipHealing #BreakTheCycle #EmpoweredWomen #MentalHealthForWomen #CodependencyRecovery

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