Empowering Women in Conversations

Confidence is not a feeling.

It’s a decision.

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Julie DeLucca-Collins — TEDx speaker, bestselling author, and business strategist — to unpack the confidence myth so many women believe.

Why do we wait to feel ready?
Why do we wait to be chosen?
And what does it actually take to build real self-trust?

In this episode, we explore:

• Why confidence isn’t a feeling
• How comparison steals momentum
• The danger of external validation
• What radical self-trust really looks like
• How to stop waiting and start choosing yourself

This is honest. Grounded. And deeply empowering.

🎙 Season 4 • Episode 38
Stop Waiting to Be Chosen
Part 1: The Confidence Myth Women Believe
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🎙 About the Podcast

Empowering Women in Conversations
Hosted by Anita Sandoval, LPC-S

Helping women stop people-pleasing, build confidence, and live authentically.

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You know you’re healing when you stop asking:

👉 “Will they choose me?”

…and start asking:

👉 “Can I stay myself here?”

There was a version of me that:
✨ overthought everything
✨ people pleased to belong
✨ feared being alone
✨ confused attention with connection

Now I’m learning:
💛 connection feels different when I don’t abandon myself to keep it.

Healing isn’t becoming cold.
It’s learning:

* boundaries
* authenticity
* self trust
* emotional safety
* how to belong without performing

And honestly?
That shift can feel uncomfortable at first.

🫀 Sometimes your chest tightens.
🧠 Sometimes your brain overthinks.
🌊 Sometimes old fears resurface.

But now you catch yourself before you lose yourself.

POLL👇
A️⃣ Still trying to earn connection
B️⃣ Starting to choose myself

#PeoplePleaserRecovery #HealingJourney #WomenEmpowerment #TraumaHealing #Authenticity #SelfWorth #Boundaries #EMDR #Overthinking #EmpowerHerPathways #PeoplePleasing #RelationshipHealing #InnerHealing #AnxietyHealing

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✨ You don’t have to keep losing yourself just to keep the peace.

So many women were taught to:
• stay quiet
• overgive
• avoid conflict
• carry everyone else’s emotions
• and ignore their own needs

Over time, that can lead to:
💔 burnout
💔 anxiety
💔 emotional exhaustion
💔 toxic relationship patterns
💔 feeling disconnected from yourself

At Positive Awakenings Counseling Center, I help women begin reconnecting with their voice, identity, boundaries, and self-worth through:

✨ Counseling
✨ Coaching
✨ Psychoeducation
✨ Journaling & Reflection Work
✨ Nervous System Awareness
✨ Boundary & Self-Worth Work
✨ Healing from Toxic Relationship Patterns

Healing isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about coming home to who you were always meant to be. 🌸

💌 If you’re ready to begin your healing journey, message me “HEAL” or visit my website to learn more.

#PositiveAwakenings #EmpowerHerPathways #WomenEmpowerment #PeoplePleaserRecovery #TherapyForWomen #CounselingSupport #HealingJourney #SelfWorth #Boundaries #AuthenticLiving #WomenHealingWomen #MentalHealthAwareness #TraumaHealing #RelationshipHealing #NervousSystemHealing #LifeCoachingForWomen #TherapistLife #EmotionalHealing #WomenSupportingWomen #PeoplePleasingRecovery

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✨ “I finally got the peace I wanted… so why do I feel so exhausted?”

Sometimes healing doesn’t feel peaceful at first.
Sometimes your body crashes after surviving for too long.

🌿 Burnout isn’t laziness.
It’s emotional survival mode catching up to your body.

#PeoplePleasingRecovery #BurnoutRecovery #HealingJourney #WomenEmpowerment #EmotionalHealing #NervousSystemHealing #PeoplePleaser #TherapyInsights #SelfWorthJourney #EmpowerHerPathways

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💔 “I lost myself trying to be loved.”

And maybe…
you did too.

People-pleasing doesn’t happen because you’re weak.

It often comes from:
✨ fear of rejection
✨ abandonment wounds
✨ walking on eggshells
✨ overexplaining
✨ trying to keep everyone happy
✨ losing yourself just to keep the relationship

Over time, many women stop asking:
“What do I want?”

And start asking:
“What keeps everyone else okay?”

That’s why I created ✨ The EmpowerHer Pathway™ ✨

A 7-stage healing journey helping women move from:
💔 people-pleasing
💔 toxic relationship patterns
💔 emotional exhaustion
💔 losing their voice

➡️ into empowered, authentic living.

The stages include:

1️⃣ Losing Myself
2️⃣ Something’s Not Right
3️⃣ I’m Done Feeling This Way
4️⃣ Choosing Me Even When It Hurts
5️⃣ I’m Starting To Trust Myself
6️⃣ This Is Who I Am
7️⃣ I Catch Myself Now

Because healing isn’t about becoming perfect.

It’s about:
🌸 recognizing the pattern
🌸 reconnecting with yourself
🌸 setting boundaries without guilt
🌸 trusting your voice again
🌸 becoming the version of you that survival mode hid

✨ Which stage are you in right now?

Comment:
1️⃣ 2️⃣ 3️⃣ 4️⃣ 5️⃣ 6️⃣ or 7️⃣

And save this post for the days you forget how far you’ve come. 🤍

#PeoplePleaser #PeoplePleasingRecovery #EmpowerHerPathways #WomenHealing #HealingJourney #ToxicRelationships #Boundaries #SelfWorth #EmotionalHealing #WomenEmpowerment #TraumaHealing #AuthenticLiving #AnxiousAttachment #HealingFromToxicRelationships #SelfLoveJourney #RelationshipHealing #BreakTheCycle #EmpoweredWomen #MentalHealthForWomen #CodependencyRecovery

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Empowering Women in Conversations

💔 “I lost myself trying to be loved.”

And maybe…
you did too.

People-pleasing doesn’t happen because you’re weak.

It often comes from:
✨ fear of rejection
✨ abandonment wounds
✨ walking on eggshells
✨ overexplaining
✨ trying to keep everyone happy
✨ losing yourself just to keep the relationship

Over time, many women stop asking:
“What do I want?”

And start asking:
“What keeps everyone else okay?”

That’s why I created ✨ The EmpowerHer Pathway™ ✨

A 7-stage healing journey helping women move from:
💔 people-pleasing
💔 toxic relationship patterns
💔 emotional exhaustion
💔 losing their voice

➡️ into empowered, authentic living.

The stages include:

1️⃣ Losing Myself
2️⃣ Something’s Not Right
3️⃣ I’m Done Feeling This Way
4️⃣ Choosing Me Even When It Hurts
5️⃣ I’m Starting To Trust Myself
6️⃣ This Is Who I Am
7️⃣ I Catch Myself Now

Because healing isn’t about becoming perfect.

It’s about:
🌸 recognizing the pattern
🌸 reconnecting with yourself
🌸 setting boundaries without guilt
🌸 trusting your voice again
🌸 becoming the version of you that survival mode hid

✨ Which stage are you in right now?

Comment:
1️⃣ 2️⃣ 3️⃣ 4️⃣ 5️⃣ 6️⃣ or 7️⃣

And save this post for the days you forget how far you’ve come. 🤍

#PeoplePleaser #PeoplePleasingRecovery #EmpowerHerPathways #WomenHealing #HealingJourney #ToxicRelationships #Boundaries #SelfWorth #EmotionalHealing #WomenEmpowerment #TraumaHealing #AuthenticLiving #AnxiousAttachment #HealingFromToxicRelationships #SelfLoveJourney #RelationshipHealing #BreakTheCycle #EmpoweredWomen #MentalHealthForWomen #CodependencyRecovery

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Just because a relationship has moments of peace…
doesn’t mean the pattern has changed.

Sometimes healing begins when you stop focusing only on the temporary calm…
and start paying attention to the full pattern.

The gifts.
The apologies.
The good weekends.
The “better” moments.

Ask yourself:

Is there accountability?
Is there emotional safety?
Is there respect during conflict?
Is the behavior consistently changing?

Awareness is not overreacting.
Awareness is the beginning of self-trust.

And often, before the mind fully accepts it…
the body already knows.

✨ Healing begins with clarity.

#EmpowerHerPathways #PeoplePleaserRecovery #EmotionalSafety #HealthyRelationships #WomenHealingWomen #SelfWorthJourney #BoundariesMatter #TraumaHealing #AuthenticLiving #RelationshipPatterns #HealingJourney #WomenEmpowerment #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfTrust #PeoplePleasing #EmotionalHealing #CycleBreaking #TherapistInsights #EmpoweredWomen #InnerHealing

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🚨 QUIZ: You Might Be a People Pleaser If… 👀

Which one sounds MOST like you?

🔘 I feel guilty saying no
🔘 I avoid conflict at all costs
🔘 I put others before myself
🔘 All of the above 😅

✨ If you picked the last one… welcome to the healing journey.

#EmpowerHerPathways #PeoplePleasing #HealingWomen

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✨ Welcome to the EmpowerHer Community ✨
A safe space for women healing from people-pleasing, failed relationships, anxiety, burnout, and self-doubt.

Here we focus on:
💖 Empowerment
🧠 Emotional healing & self-awareness
🌱 Personal growth
🎙 Podcast conversations
📚 Resources & support
🔥 Becoming resilient, authentic, and confident

This community is for women learning to:
✔ Set boundaries
✔ Find their voice
✔ Stop abandoning themselves
✔ Heal from toxic patterns
✔ Build healthier relationships
✔ Step into authentic living

You’ll find:
✨ Encouragement
✨ Polls & discussions
✨ Behind-the-scenes content
✨ Podcast updates
✨ Healing insights
✨ Motivation for your journey

You are not alone here. 💕

— Anita Sandoval
EmpowerHer Pathways

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Empowering Women in Conversations

So many women I work with learned early on…
that their role was to keep everyone else okay.

To stay quiet.
To avoid conflict.
To be “easy to love.”

But here’s the truth 👇
People pleasing is not your purpose.

It’s a survival pattern rooted in:
• Fear of rejection
• Fear of conflict
• Fear of losing connection

And over time…
it disconnects you from yourself.

✨ Healing isn’t about becoming someone new
It’s about returning to who you were before you felt like you had to perform for love

You are allowed to:
✔ Have needs
✔ Set boundaries
✔ Say no
✔ Choose yourself

If you’re ready to break this pattern…

💬 Comment “READY”
I’ll send you something to help you start 💜
#PeoplePleaser #StopPeoplePleasing #EmpoweredWomen #Boundaries #HealingJourney #SelfWorth #WomenHealing #EmpowerHer #AuthenticLiving

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