The Alienated Dad

I've had an amazing near 3 hour phone call chat today with @DeletingDadUK , I needed that 💪🏻

Tom is an amazing man, fighting not only 2+ years of parental alienation from his daughter but also he suffers with MS, 2 battles he speaks of here on @wisemanthree 's latest podcast: youtube.com/live/_gycEzwqmr4?si=EYRL6FYT-Ry3ZEOk

We are Two very similar men, same age, both targetted parents and both on the same journey making the same choices in many aspects.

If you or someone you know suffers with Parental Alienation then please support this man by subscribing to his channel.

Furthermore dad's if you have an alienation story you would like to have told anonymously alongside other's stories including my own in a hard back book then look into Deteting Dad's website here:

deletingdad.co.uk/

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The Alienated Dad

So yesterday I coincidently ran straight into this great man, Chris, of ‪@wisemanthree‬​ - what are the odds 🤪
Anybody who's watched my podcast video will know who Chris is and what a great host he was, as if a seasoned pro!
This podcast: https://youtu.be/tsD1MOIlrtA?si=Xx0JU... was his very first one and through a very rigorous process he hand selected me to be his first ever victim on his show, which ofcourse was an honour 😂
Great man and anybody reading this who isn't subsrcribed to him, well what are you waiting for, go hit that button 😎

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The Alienated Dad

These memories show up daily on my Facebook page.
This one is significant because I talk of my daughter, then just 11yrs old, approaching me for a cuddle ❤️

She was alienated permanently just 7 months later 😞

There are no images of my children in the post because of the family law system threats of imprisonment if I shared publicly images of the love my children and myself share between us.

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The Alienated Dad

I've not gone awol, I'm still here.
After an extended weekend away 'karting' with my boy I've had to today try and get mulyself back into the right mental place to decide what I'll focus on in my next video (which I hoped would be today).
I've chosen to talk about and play the recording of the chat I had with my children's mom in an M@S cafe exactly 1 week after she left me.

To get into the right mindset I've had to today listen to that 1hr 45min chat again and there's nothing easy about doing this, it mentally drags me right back into the moment and my emotions begin to surface, it all feels so real and present again.

Pretty much everything is summed up in this chat, you can hear it from her own mouth, she always knew I could never hit or harm her, yet she couldn't help herself from attacking and beating me....but still she blames me that she had no choice but to beat me.

You'll hear of the extent I went to to help her, to help myself, to help us and even in this chat I was being careful with my choice of words because I knew if it got too intense for her she would leave.

My idea is to let the voice recording play in full and narrate at different points to add context and hi-lite certain things.

I would love to sit at a table with her now and put a few questions to her such as "why, why did you do this?, I loved you, our children loved me, we all needed each other" but she'll forever believe in her own story, her own lies, her own narcissistic reasonings for what she's done.

Beyond that our daughter will likely always believe in the same, and that's why I'm here now beginning to tell the true story, to shine a light on what until now has remained supressed. The truth.

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The Alienated Dad

Live this Thursday 19:00 GMT with ‪@wisemanthree‬  

A first for me, breaking out of my comfort zone, I'll be going live on air with the brilliant Chris of wisemanthree.
Unscripted, RAW and unafraid, I'll answer any question with open honesty and if I break down, choke or just need a minute to recompose myself, the camera will not stop rolling.

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The Alienated Dad

Dad's be careful!...They arrive with a smile, they appear friendly, supportive, caring and compassionate abd they leave you filled with hope that finally, you have been heard.
And then just days before your first family court hearing, sometimes while your even sat there in the court waiting area minutes before your hearing, they hand you their written statement.

You open it in anticipation expecting to see everything you had explained to them professionally wrotten down, you know this is the only 'evidence' allowed into family court, you know your relationship with your children and relationships beyond depend solely on this written statement.

You begin to read and immediately your heart starts to sink and your stress levels begin to rise, lie after lie, accusation after accusation against you from the defendant mother, but ofcourse you expectdd this, this is how she's acted since she ran away from you with your children telling the world they were all in imminent danger from you.

So you carry on reading, it's ok because you know what you told that social worker counters and rubbishes all those accusations and shows the true father that you are.

And then you begin to see it, the truth quickly comes into focus, those times, situations and feelings you had explained to the social worker, their not written down here, there's no trace of them, nothing to tell the judge that you love your children, loved their mom and just want to remain a father.

Instead in place of those words are carefully twisted allegations, everything you said now professionally twisted against you, you begin very quickly to see how masterfull those social workers really are, how they are professionally trained to purposefully twist everything you said against you.

So there you sit, maybe 2-3 days before your first court hearing, maybe in the waiting area as your ex stares in your direction knowing she has the upper hand, knowing she's winning in keeping your children from you.

The stress, anger, frustration, hate....it all boils over, your now in the dangerous state of mind they want to present you to a judge in, a mindset where your immediately switching into defence mode, into argument mode, into a mode that will see you collapse in court.

It's all about riding the waves, it's a repetetive pattern and after several family court cases you know what to expect, but still it cuts like a knife, it crudhes you while your at your lowest, it's the system trying to break you, trying to justify it's already set in stone decision that contact time is all your really fighting for.

And here's where lies the trap, the cash cow, the reason the family law system exists....for profit.
In these moments of absolute despair as you stare into the abyss you realise you cannot win this battle alone, as your also now becoming aware the social worker has became your ex's best friend, 2 peas in a pod, and when you see them sitting together in court you'll truly understand the nature of the system...it's to get you to fund it, to keep it proffitable.

They want you to employ a solicitor and they do it by freely appointing a social worker acting as a solicitor to your ex, right now she has the upper hand, that social worker is now the highest ranked professional sat before the judge, she will be heard over you, her reccomendations will be followed, and those are massively detrimental to you and more importantly your children.

So you employ a solicitor, until you have the knowkedge and understanding this is the only way you can (or atleast you believe) get a fair deal out of the court. The system wins because you've now paid multi thousands of pounds into it, but for what, the best outcome? Really?

Family Law solicitors work for the family law system, not for you, you must remember this. The same solicitor that will befriend you and appear as if helping to bring you back to your children will just as happily help your ex keep your children from you if she gets to them first....let that sink in!

In time you'll learn this if your unfortunate enough to have an ex like mine who must at all costs remain in power and control of you through using your children as weapons.

The system is rigged, calculated and has every single angle covered to ensure proffitability and absolute minimum risk to itself, it's a self sustaining society destroying cancer than needs to be eradicated, that needs first to be exposed.

And exposing it is my job.

The Alienated Dad
Lee Mallett

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