IF YOU DON'T HAVE LISTENING SKILLS, YOUR COMMUNICATION PIPE IS BLOCKED.
To become a good listener, you
have to want to hear. But you also need some skills to help
you.
Here are nine suggestions to help you become a better
listener:
1. LOOK AT THE SPEAKER
The whole listening process begins with giving the other person undivided attention.
Set aside the time to focus only on the other person. And if you don’t have the time at that
moment, then schedule it as soon as you can.
2. DON’T INTERRUPT
Most people react badly to being interrupted. It makes them feel disrespected.
If you are in the habit of interrupting other people, examine
your motives and determine to make a change. Give people the time they need to express themselves.
3. FOCUS ON UNDERSTANDING
Have you ever noticed how quickly most people forget the things they hear? One way to combat that tendency is to make your goal
understanding rather than just remembering facts.
4. DETERMINE THE NEED AT THE MOMENT
The ability to discern the other person’s need at the moment
is part of becoming an effective listener.
5. CHECK YOUR EMOTIONS
Most people carry around
emotional baggage that causes them to react to certain people or situations.
Anytime that you become highly emotional when
listening to another person, check your emotions—especially if your reaction seems to be stronger than the situation warrants.
6. SUSPEND YOUR JUDGMENT
Have you ever begun listening to another person tell a story
and started to respond to it before he or she was finished? Just
about everyone has.
But the truth is that you can’t jump to
conclusions and be a good listener at the same time. As you
talk to others, wait to hear the whole story before you respond.
If you don’t, you may miss the most important thing they
intend to say.
7. SUM UP AT MAJOR INTERVALS A technique for active listening is to sum up what the other person says at major intervals. As the speaker finishes one subject, paraphrase his or her main points or ideas before going on to the next one, and verify that you have gotten the right message. Doing that reassures the person and helps you
stay focused on what he or she is trying to communicate.
8. ASK QUESTIONS FOR CLARITY If you want to become an effective listener, become a good reporter— someone who gently asks follow-up questions and seeks clarification.
If you show people
how much you care and ask in a non threatening way, you’ll be
amazed by how much they’ll tell you.
9. ALWAYS MAKE LISTENING YOUR PRIORITY
The last thing to remember when developing your listening skills is to make listening a priority, no matter how busy you
become or how far you rise in your organization
From the Book: How to be an Influencer by John C Maxwell
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IF YOU DON'T HAVE LISTENING SKILLS, YOUR COMMUNICATION PIPE IS BLOCKED.
To become a good listener, you
have to want to hear. But you also need some skills to help
you.
Here are nine suggestions to help you become a better
listener:
1. LOOK AT THE SPEAKER
The whole listening process begins with giving the other person undivided attention.
Set aside the time to focus only on the other person. And if you don’t have the time at that
moment, then schedule it as soon as you can.
2. DON’T INTERRUPT
Most people react badly to being interrupted. It makes them feel disrespected.
If you are in the habit of interrupting other people, examine
your motives and determine to make a change. Give people the time they need to express themselves.
3. FOCUS ON UNDERSTANDING
Have you ever noticed how quickly most people forget the things they hear? One way to combat that tendency is to make your goal
understanding rather than just remembering facts.
4. DETERMINE THE NEED AT THE MOMENT
The ability to discern the other person’s need at the moment
is part of becoming an effective listener.
5. CHECK YOUR EMOTIONS
Most people carry around
emotional baggage that causes them to react to certain people or situations.
Anytime that you become highly emotional when
listening to another person, check your emotions—especially if your reaction seems to be stronger than the situation warrants.
6. SUSPEND YOUR JUDGMENT
Have you ever begun listening to another person tell a story
and started to respond to it before he or she was finished? Just
about everyone has.
But the truth is that you can’t jump to
conclusions and be a good listener at the same time. As you
talk to others, wait to hear the whole story before you respond.
If you don’t, you may miss the most important thing they
intend to say.
7. SUM UP AT MAJOR INTERVALS
A technique for active listening is to sum up what the other person says at major intervals. As the speaker finishes one subject, paraphrase his or her main points or ideas before going on to the next one, and verify that you have gotten the right message. Doing that reassures the person and helps you
stay focused on what he or she is trying to communicate.
8. ASK QUESTIONS FOR CLARITY
If you want to become an effective listener, become a good reporter— someone who gently asks follow-up questions and seeks clarification.
If you show people
how much you care and ask in a non threatening way, you’ll be
amazed by how much they’ll tell you.
9. ALWAYS MAKE LISTENING YOUR PRIORITY
The last thing to remember when developing your listening skills is to make listening a priority, no matter how busy you
become or how far you rise in your organization
From the Book: How to be an Influencer by John C Maxwell
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